International Adoption- The Saga Continues......

So, we continue to wait to hear from the Russian court if we should proceed or forget about Russia for adoption.  No news today, and we were hoping to hear from them.  Maybe there was another snowstorm in Moscow.  Wait, there's a snowstorm everyday in Moscow!

No matter what, I guess we should start prepping for a home study.  So, I'm pretty close to putting together a fund-raiser.  I will have tickets made up soon for it.  Thinking we will do a giveaway of a "New Ipad", or whatever it is they will finally call it.  You can most certainly bet I will be posting about it once we proceed.

Did I tell you I am freaked out by this?  That I cannot simply the believe the overwhelming responses I've received in regard to this issue?  That we are afraid of hurting a little boy who so deserves to be loved.  But I worry.  Don't sound surprised by this, I will admit only under extreme scrutiny or torture (like being forced to watch "Wall-E" over and over without the benefit of Jameson's) that I worry about very many things at all.  But I worry for everyone involved here.

I am freaked out about the overwhelming body of evidence that points to the fact that little boys that come out of Russia have great difficulty attaching/bonding to their new families.  Even boys that have spent some time with their biological family before becoming part of the Russian orphanage system have some issues, but ones that have never been in a family setting, and reach certain ages have the deck stacked even further against them.

And oh yeah, and let's not forget the language issue.  My pitiful excuse for Russian comprehension is non-existant.  Any grasp I had of the language was lost years ago.  How do we communicate with a little boy who speaks no English, and prepare him to enter school?  The math says that if we start this now, best case we get him home by the end of the year.  Do we keep him home from December until next summer and put him in school the following August?  Or do we immerse him in the language and put him in kindergarden right after Christmas?  What school would even take him?  Not to mention we don't even know how well he can get around, or if he has the cognitive ability to grasp the material.

So we sit, and we pray.  And we wait, and we pray.  We discuss, we research, we try not to become overwhelmed by the body of evidence that says that if we bring this little boy into our home, that he may never adapt, that he might not ever function independently.

Does anyone out there know anyone that can offer advise?  We are willing to listen, and to prayerfully consider all options.  But we don't want to hurt this little boy, and we need to know if we are up to the challenge. 

St. Jerome Emiliani, pray for us

Blessed Mother Teresa, pray for us

Blessed Pope John Paul II, pray for us